During a first meeting with a spiritual director, ask yourself
- Do I feel safe and have a connection with this director?
- Do I feel free to be open and honest about my beliefs, identity, sexuality, money habits, etc. with this director?
- Do I feel safe to bring up a problem with this director if they say or do something that does not work for me?
It is important that you feel safe to bring your whole self to spiritual direction. Check in with yourself before, during, and after session to make sure you feel freedom when meeting with this particular director.
If we aren’t a good fit to work together, either because of logistics, style or any other reason, I’d love to make sure you’re matched with a spiritual director.
I suggest you start with the Spiritual Directors International search page. It allows you to search for a spiritual director by city. I recommend you arrange to have first meetings with 3 different directors. A lot of spiritual direction is about feeling a sense of safety and connection with the director, so ask yourself the questions above as you meet with each.
I’m excited for you as you begin or continue this part of your journey!